How To Handle Critical People

Critical people operate from a place of fear. It is easier and tempting to criticize others than take a look at one’s own faults. Just because a person is critical of others does not mean that the person does not internally criticize his or herself. The thing is, it is hard to live or even work with such a person. It is disheartening and exhausting for everyone. Mainly, because the critical person is extremely unhappy and wants to spread his or her unhappiness to others. My daughter is going through this right now with a co-worker. The woman is a little older than me, early 50’s and she is driving everyone crazy at work with her critical speech and laziness. My daughter who is 21 has always been taught to respect her elders, but has about come to her limit. This woman has been at the hotel where she works for awhile and at one time probably was a good worker, now she is bossy and critical and lies or manipulates the boss to get what she wants or needs. She does things to manipulate the other girls out of their hours, thinks she is high and mighty when the owner is out of town, and does her best to demean the younger girls when she is trying to cover her butt when she is being lazy or slacking on her responsibilities during work. The worst part is this woman does her darnest to get the girls in trouble or in danger of being fired. This last round of chaos has my daughter ready to flip her lid and call it quits like so many other women before her; they have quit because of this lady. I told my daughter the woman is criticizing the rest of them on a constant basis because she is trying to distract from her lack of performance and is afraid that if their work is superior to hers, they will be promoted and she would be back out in the cold as the saying goes. Manipulating the owner/boss is her way of securing her job, whether right or wrong. The woman’s fear of being replaced by someone doing a better job, because she no longer does well at her job is her motivation in criticizing and making everyone miserable. It is sad that some have to resort to this type of behavior to soothe their conscious. We have an inner gauge to our behavior and we know when we are being unfair or deceptive toward others, but for those who do not want to own up to their part in the scheme of things, they resort to criticizing and underhanded means to throw the attention off themselves. Unhappiness also causes a person to be more critical of others. Misery loves company as they say. Category:Home › Other • Pomegranates: A newly discovered superfood • Where did the joke why did the chicken cross the road come from and why is it funny? • Can mothers diagnosed with bipolar disorder make good parents? • Spiritual evolution of human consciousness • Tips for getting a college basketball scholarship • Living with Pseudotumor cerebri (PTC) • Caring for the caregiver • Technologys impact on society